Friday Night Dinner Date

After two busy weekends, Tom and I had a dinner date at home tonight. I shopped a little this afternoon at the fresh market, found local lemons, wonderful Amish butter, and green tomatoes. Then I headed to Sams and found the sea scallops, grape tomatoes, and baby colored peppers. Hmmm? How about Sauteed Sea Scallops with Green Peas, Bacon and Onion; Grape Tomatoes with Bleu Cheese and Olive Oil on Romaine Hearts; and Roasted Baby Peppers with Garlic and Balsamic Vinegar. The wine, A New Zealand Pinot Noir. Pretty good, if I do say so, though I would change the wine next time.

100 + Things About Me

One of the challenges making the rounds of blogs is to write "100 Things About Me", and then to tag someone else to do it. Well, I decided to try. After the first 10 descriptors, I didn't think I would ever make it to 100. But I hung in there and decided to work on it as long as it took. So, developed over parts of three nights---here is my list:

1. I have curly hair.
2. I love learning.
3. Ellen is my middle name—but middle names for girls are worthless.
4. The American poets---Robert Frost, Walt Whitman, Emily Dickinson—oh especially Emily Dickinson---speak to me.
5. I grew up in Texas, but I don’t have big hair.
6. I don’t like August and September in the South.
7. In the first grade, I was the bride in a Tom Thumb wedding.
8. I like to write—and I’m fairly good at it.
9. I can’t sing a note, but I am a great audience.
10. I believe Balance is the key to a happy life.
11. One of my favorite books is East of the Sun by Barbara Bickmore—great story.
12. In a group, I am usually the leader.
13. My Myers Briggs type is ENTJ.
14. I get together annually with five of my high school girlfriends—they are all in Texas.
15. My father died when I was 17—heart attack.
16. I met Tom in college when he called my roommate for a date and she was busy. I was the substitute—that was about 40 years ago.
17. I helped found the shelter for abused women in our community.
18. I am a pretty good public speaker—and I have done a lot of it.
19. I like to use things in a different way than they were intended—bedspreads for tablecloths, old tin buckets for vases, a quilt as art on the wall, an old drawer as a shelf.
20. I am not the most patient person; actually, I am rather impatient.
21. I don’t have trouble expressing my opinion.
22. I see the forest more easily than the trees.
23. I enjoy lake activities more than beach activities, but the beach does have better sunsets.
24. My theology was shaped in part by Rabbi Kushner’s book, When Bad Things Happen to Good People.
25. I am Republican about fiscal issues and a Democrat about social issues. I live with a banker.
26. I married at 21---and it took.
27. I love big cities—NY, Chicago, London.
28. I don’t like long airplane trips.
29. Les Miserables is my all-time favorite musical.
30. The Internet is like having the world at my fingertips.
31. I am good at telling stories (jokes), but my friend Leslie is better.
32. I sleep on my tummy with a flat pillow under my head and my right foot uncovered.
33. I like to cook, but I don’t like to bake.
34. I’ve been to the Bike Rally in Sturgis.
35. I don’t have a tattoo.
36. I like to plan parties. Our last one was an engagement party, Pearls and Pork. We gave big pearls to the girls;we served barbecue;and the guests brought“pearls of wisdom”(advice and tips) for the Bride and Groom.
37. I like to cook in front of guests, so my kitchen is designed to accommodate that.I give everyone a small task.
38. I have chaired more committees and organizations than I can count.
39. I love the world wide web.
40. I can sew.
41. I think blogs are a great way for people to practice their writing skills. Just think about it—otherwise, how often do people write these days?
42. When I travel, I would rather mingle in out-of-the-way places with the natives rather than spend hours in line with other tourists to see an attraction. I figure I can see the attractions on line.
43. I usually start conversations with, “Hi, My name is Kay. I don’t think I have met you”.
44. I like to dress up grits. I have made grits with goat, smoked gouda, cheddar,boursin, and other cheeses. I have made grit cakes, grits truffles stuffed with shrimp and crabmeat, and grit casseroles.
45. I like to try a new dish in a restaurant and attempt to replicate it at home.
46. I belong to a supper club, 16 of us, that has been together for 18 years. We meet monthly at the club, except for exceptions like next month at our farm.
47. I belong to another supper club that cooks—eight of us. We meet every other month and the host does it all. It’s my turn next. I think we’ll have quail and grits—dressed up, of course--- at the farm.
48. I vote.
49. I need to exercise more and eat less. Just looking at that treadmill doesn’t work.
50. I love that my children are such wonderful adults and incredible parents.
51. I’ve learned a lot about Brazil because our son-in-law is Brazilian.
52. I managed a major gifts campaign that brought in $4.4 million---and lots of friends--- for the College.
53. I like to read the weekend edition of the Wall Street Journal.
54. I’m learning more about recycling, repurposing, and reusing.
55. I like sunlight, but I don’t stay in the sun.
56. I really don’t care about cars except as a way to get from A to B. What kind do I have? A white one.
57. Jet lag kills me.
58. Over the years we have hosted several international citizens in our home. One of our young Asian guests, a fashion designer, said, “You Americans wear too much fuschia.” So I try not to wear fuschia.
59. I buy online when possible—no parking, no lines, no weather, no tax.
60. When we visit our farm, I pick up trash on the road in front of it—cigarette packs,beer cans and bottles, fast food packaging. I can’t believe people just throw garbage out the window. But they do.
61. I love porches and rocking chairs and swings.
62. I enjoyed my children’s weddings, but I don’t want any more.
63. I love beautiful prose.
64. I don’t want one of those digital photo frames. What good is it? Your screen saver can do the same thing.
65. I wish I knew more about photo editing.
66. I can’t stand having molds—like for a crown--- made in the dentist office. Have to have some drugs. My children, who had braces, have no sympathy.
67. I’ve had one Valium in my life—see # 66.
68. I’ve been on some great Harley trips. We trailer the bikes to the destination and ride when we get there. We usually have to take one car—-just can’t get pearls and other gear in those saddle bags.
69. I love watching Tom play with our grandsons.
70. I used to watch Law and Order reruns—until I discovered blogging and bloggers.
71. I like old movies—did you ever see All This and Heaven Too with Betty Davis and Charles Boyer?
72. I had several great high school teachers.
73. I like the bathroom tissue to roll off the top.
74. I squeeze the toothpaste anywhere I want to.
75. I am right-handed and mostly left-brained—but I am working on that.
76. I don’t like to chew gum.
77. I really like happy hour. My favorite cocktail napkin says “It’s always five o’clock somewhere.”
78. I live in a football crazed state—and there are so many important things to think about and act upon.
79. Among my favorite books is the Clan of the Cave Bear series.
80. I’ve bought beautiful Waterford water goblets because they stay on the table and are less likely to break.I buy cheap wine glasses so guests feel comfortable. So what if they break.
81. I don’t know why all caps is considered screaming in email.I would like to use it sometimes for emphasis but don’t.
82. My cocktail of choice is Grey Goose and water with lemon, but I love to read about and buy single malt Scotch for Tom.
83. I have no desire to ride my own Harley; I just love sitting behind Tom.
84. I need at least one private (as opposed to corporate) social event every weekend. That’s how I fill back up.
85. I am a terrible proofer. Thank goodness my assistant is a good one.
86. I have never smoked a cigarette.
87. I am a Leo—whatever that means.
88. I like movies and plays that make me feel good. There’s enough poverty, squalor,dysfunction, broken relationships, and ignorance already. I don’t want to pay to see more of it.
89. I just don’t like cats at all. We have outside dogs (setters) and I like them a lot—just not on me.
90. I’ve never slept in an unmade bed---and I don’t plan to. Mornings, I make the bed,and Tom makes the coffee.
91. The camera is not kind to me—or maybe I’m just not as cute as I think I am.
92. I’ve never had a broken bone.
93. I’ve had massages and pedicures and manicures,and they are okay,but I generally don’t choose to spend my time that way.
94. I enjoy collecting and wearing vintage rhinestone jewelry.
95. I am not much of an athlete—but I grew up before Title IX.
96. I like to garden only in April and October.
97. I try to water ski at least once each year.
98. I love oysters.
99. I am always on time—except for my purposeful “fashionably late” entrance at parties.
100. I am thinking about recycling greeting cards—tearing off the cover and writing my own message on the back, then punching a hole in the corner and tying to a wine bottle or gift package. Cool idea, huh?
101. I’m okay with public prayer if it is inclusive. When I pray in public, it is inclusive.

Well, that's my list. I think I could go for 200--but who would read it! I won't tag anyone just yet, but let me know if you try it.

I Need to Ride!!!

Whew! January was a busy month, and February looks to be the same. I have been super busy at the College with chairing a regional education committee, managing a big interior design project--with a professional designer, of course-- and preparing to fill a few personnel vacancies. We have a wonderful staff, so it's not that I am any busier than anyone else, but when I am also busy at home, I feel the load. At home, we've had lots of planning and preparation for two big events on back-to-back weekends. All fun stuff, but pressure nonetheless.

What I need is a ride on the Harley--to blow out the cobwebs, to feel the wind in my face, to smell Life--the new baled hay, the smoke from someone's fireplace; the spring weeds, the cow herds, and yes, even the occasional skunk. I love those smells. In the car (the Cage, we call it), we are separated from those smells, those reminders of the life cycle. We breeze down the road with the windows rolled up and the music playing, and we never even consider the miraculous events going on right outside. But on the bike---oh, on the bike--we are part of that Life. We can feel the wind; we see the setting sun; we smell the wild onion; we taste the moisture in the air; and we hear the lowing of the cattle.

The picture of Tom, made this past weekend, on the bike with Alexander--never fear, just posing for the picture--- reminded me of the freedom and the controlled wildness of a bike ride. Yes, yes, I do need one!

Artsy Photos

I've played with a few of the photos from the birthday party weekend. It helps to have great subjects. Just click on the title of this post; then click Slideshow. Enjoy!

Such Wonderful Family and Friends at the Birthday

Thanks to all who made the day so special for us!

The Birthday Boys

We've been looking forward to and planning this event for a year. Almost as soon as Alexander was born January 31, 2007, Elizabeth began talking about a joint birthday party for the little cousins. Brooks will be two on Feb. 6. Some things work out, and this did. This weekend was right between their birthdays; mommies and daddies were able to get away from work and travel to Dothan from Columbus and Tampa; the weather was almost perfect; forty-four friends and relatives were able to join us; and the birthday boys were in rare form. Tom and I enjoyed the preparations, and the farm is such a good location for large gatherings. Our cup runneth over!

Signing the Book

It's a Southern thing, I think---this signing the book. You know about that, don't you? I had a meeting in a town just up the road today, and Tom said, "While you are there, could you go by the funeral home and sign the book for Blank and Blank"? Sure, I said---so, I stopped by the funeral home and signed two books. The families were not there, but the books were ready, and several had signed ahead of me. And so, on the page headed "Friends", I signed our names.


We have guests coming for the weekend, a big event to host on Saturday, and we did not think we could go to the visitation or funerals. By signing the book, however, we convey to our friends that we are thinking about them and remembering them in our prayers, as indeed we are.